I’ve been struggling with something in my role as a manager. I’m naturally a very kind and empathetic person, and while I know that’s not a bad trait, I feel like it’s holding me back when it comes to being assertive.
I find it hard to set boundaries, enforce accountability, or push back when I should. I don’t want to come across as “mean” or harsh, so I often end up softening my words or avoiding tough conversations. Deep down, I know this makes me look less decisive, and sometimes it even creates confusion for my team.
Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you balance being compassionate without being walked over? I want to keep my kindness but also earn respect through firmness.