My wife and I have been together for 5 years. Both are 39.
We truly are complete polar opposites.This fact was one of the things that made us attracted to each other originally I believe. For the first 2 years she was loving and caring. I did notice she could get heated pretty quickly at times but it was never to the point I thought it may be a problem.
Year 3 we moved in together. This is when things started becoming a little more difficult. I started noticing a loop happening. She would get distant, trying to have a conversation was like pulling teeth and she would just act so resentful toward me. When I would bring it up she would love bomb me for a couple months and but then go right back to being what I believe to be her true self.
After we got married she of course was in the love bombing phase. She wanted to cuddle every night, affectionate and just being who I originally fell in love with. I told myself not to get my hopes up because I figured it wouldn't last but when she is this person I cant help but fall for it over and over again.
We found out she was pregnant a month ago and I thought this would have brought us even closer, but no. Ever since then she has been acting resentful and just seems like she cant stand me. But this time her excuse is because of her pregnancy. Although she is treating everyone else the same. If I dont speak to her first she would never acknowledge my existence. When I ask a question she acts like its the dumbest question and acts like it takes every ounce of her soul to answer it. She has 0 patience for me and im constantly walking on eggshells because the smallest things will make her explode.
I'm just so mentally and emotionally drained from being on this roller coaster and I dont know what to do anymore. I feel like im married to two people. Im just so tired of feeling hated and feeling like nothing I ever do is good enough. I have done nothing to deserve to be treated like this. I work 50-60hrs a week, I do 50% of the house chores, I do the majority of the cooking(she cant cook for shit) and Im just tired of feeling so unappreciated.
I was originally excited about the baby but now im getting worried. She has a child from a previous marriage and I feel like when it comes to parenting its going to be her way only. In regards to the baby, im going to do what's best for it, but our marriage? I dont know.