They are so easy to talk to. They can make a friend group anywhere they are. They say the coolest(by cool I mean natural and not pretentious) things at the right time, as if it is a movie script. Words just flow out of them. Everyone seeks them to hangout with. People mention their name when they are not around, wondering where the hell they are. They like them so much, and from a third person perspective, they are always never alone.
I know what you will say, they have their own battles and what you see is not the whole picture. I understand that. But I want to fight my battles while being like them. They have friends, if not close friends. At least they are willing to reach out to them and ask them to have lunch or dinner together.
I myself are always excluded. In any new environment, any new people I meet I fail to be apart of a community or a group. The worst part is people just don’t care. You could be standing right next to them and they act as if you are not even there (I am talking about grown adults btw, not high school or some cringey phase). They don’t care to ask what you are up to or at least suggest to come along with them. All I do is be friendly to people. But I never receive it back. Or even in some cases I might receive ridicule for being friendly.
I honestly don’t understand. Do people just decide to not like you in the first place? If that is the case, how is it that in every new environment I am excluded? Seriously, I try my very best to be friendly and always smiling. I never say the wrong things. What is it that the words that come out of my mouth and the charming person’s words so different? What is the mindset? To be yourself? I have tried that, it didn’t work. To be pretentious? I don’t want that.
From what I wrote you might wonder I am being stingy or angry. You might even think I am someone to come off too strong to people, or try too hard, but I don’t. I really don’t. I try to be myself but at the same time talkative. I guess I am a bit frustrated because I have been in situations like this for many times.
And seriously, how do they make friends so easily?