When using OLD, I have soft guidelines that I like to use such as:
- Move to a different method of communication within 1 to 3 days
- Asked out within a week to meet within the next week or two
- Try to have at least one voice communication before meeting to help gauge chemistry.
- Have the date.
Here's my problem. Im having trouble getting to 3, let alone 4. Here are my last 5 experiences:
- Different state, we talked for a month and I really liked him a lot. I tried to get him to talk on the phone or at least leave me voice notes. He did once and then freaked out on me that I was asking too much and after some back and forth, I never heard from him again..
- Different state, we talked for a week. I messaged him to let him know that I was home from running errands and I never heard from him again.
- Same state, talked for almost a week until he asked me if I'd like to see him touch himself. I sent him a message and I bailed.
- Same state, talked for a few days but he said he just likes to trade pics back and forth and thats not what Im here for. I bailed.
- Same state, talked for almost a week, he asked me out and had plans to meet (today, actually). We had good conversations but he talked about sex a lot, even to the point of just expecting it today. It was also 24 hours before we were supposed to meet with no clear cut plans for the actual date. My gut felt funny about it so, I sent him a message and bailed. Come to find out by searching old reddit messages, apparently we had talked sometime last year, where he ended up ghosting me.
Clearly, something isn't working. Any advice on a better timeline or how to handle OLD, would be appreciated. I'm about ready to throw in the towel. Thanks so much in advance!