I really don’t know what to do, my husband and I have been together for seven years and married for literally 14 months. Weve never got along really well. We have trouble communicating and I really tried to get better at it by stopping the name calling. I do still need to work on raising my voice and he says something to hurt me and upset me.
I’m in no way blameless in this, but I’ve really tried and I’ve asked him to stop name calling and being so cruel.
Earlier today He said something that rubbed me the wrong way and I got quiet and standoffish. I apologized a few hours later and he was quiet and standoffish, so I gave him the evening and some space.
I was getting ready to go to bed and I didn’t want to go to bed with distance so I tried to apologizing and say I don’t want this distance between us. I said I told him I was sorry and I didn’t know what else to do to make it better. He became frustrated with me and I kept walking into the bathroom just saying I don’t want to go on like this. He just told me to shut up and go to bed and I started raising my voice and I stopped and I said I’m not gonna yell anymore, but I don’t wanna argue like this. He told me that I’m right and I do make him unhappy.
I’m now in our spare bedroom where I will sleep for the night. He got into the shower and came into apologize, but I just don’t wanna talk to him. He just said he just didn’t want to talk and I asked him just please leave me alone. He will get mad at me if I don’t forgive him right away but to me it’s just so cruel and unnecessary and I’m tired of just forgiving him right away to smooth things over and then nothing changes. We are trying counselling and I’ve done several sessions but either we’re not in it long enough or it’s just not helping.
I don’t know what to do. Is anyone else in a similar situation and can offer some advice?