So I have this newish friend who I have really enjoyed getting to know. We live in a small town and there is not much to do, so I've invited this friend out to my fav restaurants. This person accepts and seems excited, but then they don't actually eat when we go out. They proceed to get hammered, and then the rest of our hangout session is about continuing to get intoxicated. It's not something I am comfortable with or even particularly enjoy, so I am not sure how to approach this new friend anymore. They want to hangout, but I can't deal with the substance use. I also understand that there are a lot of issues at play here. Some of which we have bonded over as I am open about my history with my own ed and drinking problem.