Me and my spouse are in our mid 30s. Our only child is 10 years old and will turn 11 next month. We have been in a dead bedroom after our child was born. Both of us wanted to change things and tried therapy 5 years ago. But eventually we gave up after there were no results. Now she doesn't seem to want to change and has accepted our sexless marriage. There was no point bringing up the same thing repeatedly. I haven't initiated since a year. We pretty much live like roommates at this point. Communication is restricted to things that are important (kid, finances). I don't want to keep putting effort in a marriage where she doesn't want to change. I completely understand libido issues after postpartum, but it's been over a decade now. If not for our child I would have left