19f with my first boyfriend, really enjoying giving them. My boyfriend brought up a point today but before I get into that I’ll just run through the current method to see if that could be improved more as well.
I’ll have one hand on his shaft stroking it, gliding the foreskin up and down, then take it into my mouth wrapping my lips around it while continuing to stroke it and sliding my mouth up and down it in a continuous rhythm as well.
While using my other hand to touch him elsewhere, run it along his body or cupping his balls, sometimes running my nails on his lower stomach he likes that, something I love that I learned is I can press my finger against the inside of his balls and feel like a tube running up to his dick and when he cums I can literally feel the cup run through their against my finger as it shoots out, like pressing on a hose haha.
Then I’ll do that until he’s close, throw in a bit of talk sometimes, tell him to give it to me I want his cum etc, then keep it in my mouth until I start to feel it throbbing and shooting then I slow it down but still slowly suck it out of him.
He mentioned he loves it, but he feels I go a little quick and to slow things down a bit. He only said that today so haven’t got to try but want to get it right first go, surprise him I guess lol. He clarified when I asked he doesn’t mean start/stop just do things… slower. But idk how? Like when I try to imagine that idk if I can keep a slower pace or if it’ll feel natural, I feel like I’ll just gradually speed up as that’s what I’m used to. And it seems a bit silly if I go too slow.
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19f with my first boyfriend, really enjoying giving them. My boyfriend brought up a point today but before I get into that I’ll just run through the current method to see if that could be improved more as well.
I’ll have one hand on his shaft stroking it, gliding the foreskin up and down, then take it into my mouth wrapping my lips around it while continuing to stroke it and sliding my mouth up and down it in a continuous rhythm as well.
While using my other hand to touch him elsewhere, run it along his body or cupping his balls, sometimes running my nails on his lower stomach he likes that, something I love that I learned is I can press my finger against the inside of his balls and feel like a tube running up to his dick and when he cums I can literally feel the cup run through their against my finger as it shoots out, like pressing on a hose haha.
Then I’ll do that until he’s close, throw in a bit of talk sometimes, tell him to give it to me I want his cum etc, then keep it in my mouth until I start to feel it throbbing and shooting then I slow it down but still slowly suck it out of him.
He mentioned he loves it, but he feels I go a little quick and to slow things down a bit. He only said that today so haven’t got to try but want to get it right first go, surprise him I guess lol. He clarified when I asked he doesn’t mean start/stop just do things… slower. But idk how? Like when I try to imagine that idk if I can keep a slower pace or if it’ll feel natural, I feel like I’ll just gradually speed up as that’s what I’m used to. And it seems a bit silly if I go too slow.
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Ask him to masturbate with you or in front of you. See what rhythm and stroke he has.
Also, don’t get too caught in your head about “i have to make him cum”. If you watch porn it can take a beautiful pornstar 10+ minutes to get a guy there and even then there’s usually an edit cut where the partner likely jerks off and finishes the job.
I’m sure there are witches in here who will brag that they’re magical, but jaw pain is common and some guys might take awhile to figure out what works with them and their partner.
Girl, it sounds like you are doing a great job! Love the description of your technique! ❤️ go you!
I would say that the number one thing I’ve learned about blowjobs is the importance of the build up of the atmosphere, which matters as much as your technique. Pleasure happens in the brain, and no matter how you stroke or lick his cock it will not reach its full potential if he is not there mentally. I absolutely think that one of the things guys enjoy most about the bj is seeing us take them in our mouth. Like a combination of the visual stimulation (very important for guys), the emotional thing that they feel great that we are willing to do it for them, and then ofc also the physical feeling. I think maybe this is the thing he ment a bit? That he wants to slow down and just be in the blowjob for longer, being teased and played with (also mentally). Maybe your technique is so good that he just cums too fast, and he wants to experience a more drawn out act?
These are some things I personally find to work great to get a good reaction to a bj:
-FIRST: Set the mood. Dim the lights, light some candles, play some soft music. Consider wearing some sexy lingerie. Lipstick is also a nice touch. Make it feel special. You can maybe also text/talk to him him prior, writing teasingly that you want to give him a nice blowjob etc.
-Drop to your knees and look up on him. Always keep eye contact and talk dirty to him. Make sure to tell him that you want to blow him, that you want his load, that you can’t wait to taste his cum, that you want to be a naughty girl for him etc. You can massage your breasts, lick your lips, tease him a bit. One great move is to look him in the eyes while tying your hair up in a ponytail, signaling that you are ready to get to work on him.
-Then begin to touch and kiss him gently around his cock, around his groin, the balls, his ass, tickle him, use your nails to gently scratch him. Place a kiss mark on him if wearing lipstick. Tease him in every way, but DO NOT touch his cock directly. Watch his cock grow and comment on how big it is getting. Guys love to hear that and it usually gets them even hornier and harder.
-Then softly run your hand over his cock. Again, keep your eyes either on his cock or fixed on his eyes, at all times! Make him feel special, make his cock feel special. Tell him ”wow, your cock feels so nice baby”. Give his cock a few strokes, look him in the eyes with his cock close to your face and ask him what he wants you to do. 100% he will ask you to blow him.
-You then slowly, while keeping eye contact, take his tip in your mouth, keep in slow, use your hand and jerk him softly. You can let out a moan, tell him that you love to taste his cock. Kiss his cock all over, spit on it. Make it really really wet and sloppy.
-The most sensitive spot is the underside of the cock, where the glans and shaft meet. Use your tongue to stimulate there. Sideways, circles, up down. You do not have to take his whole cock in your mouth at.
-If you want you can take him deeper and apply more pressure while still running your tongue at the underside of the glans. Ask him how it feels. ”Does it feel good babe? Do you like it when I take your big cock in my mouth?”. Listen to what he wants, trust that when he moans, puts his hands on your head, and starts to move his hips that it is feeling great for him. And then do more of what you are doing at that time. If it feels good, you do not have to mix it up, keep going!
-If you try to take him deeper and feel that you fail, start to gag, gasp for air, or your eyes start to run, use this to your advantage and say something like ”omg babe, your cock is soo big” if your eyes run and your make up get a bit smudged this can even be very hot for him. Again, guys are super visual and love it when you make them feel like their cock is special.
-Listen to his body, Ask him if it feels good. Ask him if he thinks you are a good girl. When is is getting closer to orgasm, ask him if he wants to cum. Maybe you want to move ahead to PIV, so then take it slower. Maybe you want to edge him and drag it out for a bigger orgasm. Otherwise if the goal is for him to cum from the blowjob then ask where he wants to cum. Or if you are only comfortable with a specific location then tell him where you want him to cum. Tell him that you want his cum (and where: in your mouth, on your face, on your breast etc), tell him to cum for you.
-When he is really getting close don’t slow down, don’t stop, keep blowing him at high intensity and if you do not take it in the mouth: jerk him at high intensity the last part. Make sure to keep eye contact, tongue out. Even when he has orgasmed, keep stroking him lightly, if you are comfortable with his cum then a soft kiss on his cock/sucking it softly is perfect. End as you started it with some soft touches and kisses around his balls and groin.
Make sure to talk to him at every step, show that you are there and present, show interest in the act and show that you are enthusiastic about it and that you want to do it to him, as a sign of love.
Some additional advice is to always make sure the blowjob is wet enough, spit on his cock if you need to. Don’t be afraid of a a bit of drooling. If you feel like you are getting tired in your jaw/can’t take him deep: Use it to your advantage and tell him that it is because he is so big. You can always alternate the blowjob with a bit of handjob close to your face.
Do NOT let him control the blowjob, if he starts to grab/pull your head or face fuck you, then make sure that he understands that you are the one in charge. Don’t let him cum before you are ready and prepared. It is absolutely fine that he jerks the last bit himself, but make sure that you are the one that guides him there.
Try to not make faces. If you have problem with the cum simply guide it away instead of being disturbed/disgusted about getting it on your body. Glasses are great for blowjobs, guys often find it hot in a teacher/secretary kind of way (again, the visual stimulation), and you avoid getting cum in your eyes. I always keep a pair of non-prescription glasses from Amazon on my night stand for blow jobs.
Good luck! ❤️
Ask the way he love. Lick the top well make it sloppy
Slower does work better, i can back that up.
Something that works for me is to barely pull back the foreskin when jerking it, like only pull it 1cm or so.
Another thing is to suck the foreskin and twirl your tongue around inside it.
And last one is to lick the frenulum, thats the little bit under his peehole. Just long strokes with your whole tongue, feels amazing.
Give those a try, he will feel like hes gone to heaven
You can make him cum by going down with or without bj, you are 19, at your age, boys cum by even looking at naked girls, so chill and enjoy the sex and do not think much.
I think what he may be hinting at is that foreskins can be pretty painful and while in moderation that pain can be exciting it is also distracting and prevents you from fully enjoying it.
You can actually be pretty rough with a penis and beat it about a fair amount and you won’t hurt it only stimulate it as long as you don’t glide the foreskin up and down. But pull the foreskin even a little too far up or down and that’s a bad kind of pain that’s not hot. So you can go to town with small motions, but don’t make your motions too big.
Also there’s the classic things all men enjoy: anticipation, enthusiasm, view. Have a bit of a build up to it, put on a bit of a show, and keep the damn lights on!
How do y’all ask a girl for the first time
I understand his words as he wants you to make out but with his penis. Not only sucking him to make him cum but also to worship his penis. My wife likes doing it to edge me. When she feels I’m close she will either take a break or take me deep and stay like that. After 2-3 times she finally makes me cum.
So take your time and don’t seek the orgasm as the only purpose.
Bonus of course if you can swallow. There is nothing more satisfaying to feel and see your partner heading up after properly suck every last drop.
I also enjoy a slower pace. My Wife does the one hand on my shaft while she sucks the head but she does a good job with suction making sure to make lots of sucking / slurping sounds…(I like that). When we first started dating she would put my hands on the back of her head to let me know she wanted me to push her head down and control her as she took my cock deep in her mouth and gagged a bit.. that’s hot because your allowing him to be in control for a bit. I don’t do it a lot…just a little to show her who’s boss. I shave my balls so I’ll ask her to lick them & suck on them while I jack off for a bit.
You obviously have good technique but maybe your doing too much at one time using both hands is complicated. Just use one hand to stroke and your mouth to suck so you can slow down the rhythm.
Incorporating other things can be good. Kissing the head and gently licking it, making out with it. One thing I like to do is lick all the way from the base to the head, suck the head for a moment and then repeat. Or holding him in my mouth while I lick him. Try a few different things that will draw it out but still be super pleasurable.
Hey. Don’t push on that tube like that. It ruins the orgasm.
It sounds like you are amazing already. I would also be careful to relax the mouth anytime. I’ve not loved it. It’s when there’s too much pressure. And also make sure that you give the balls plenty of attention with your mouth.
That sounds fantastic to me
Lay your head over the bed on your back and open your mouth , let him throat fuck you let him do the work just do the normal sucking
For me personally I use to be able to last a lengthy amount of time with both blow jobs and sex. Now married 10 years I last 5 min or less with a bj from my wife and I’m literally back to 14 losing my virginity again and lasting less than a minute. The thing is my wife is super hot and turns me on more than any other women has. The more amped up or attracted a guy is the quicker he will bust. Sounds like either way you have nothing to be worried about.