41M and 44M, had been together for almost 10 years.
Like a lot of people, I assumed “good communication” just meant saying more or being less reactive.
Turns out… not really.
It’s more about emotional safety, timing, understanding your own conflict patterns, and how you ask for what you need, more than just what you say.
I ended up spending months learning everything I could about relationship dynamics, then co-authoring a book that puts the science into actual usable tools.
Not trying to promo, just wanted to share since we’re offering it free on Kindle today. If communication is something you’ve been working on, it might be worth a look.
Happy to drop the link or answer questions if anyone’s curious.
tldr; turned my relationship lessons into a free book to share with others