The other day I asked about how to not take reactions so personally when it's kind of obvious it's not really about you. I have a hard time with social skills, but I have recently started doing somthing that has really helped my confidence.

I had a girl in my group react rather negativley to me and I could tell it was probably not really about me, but it still took me back to my old place where I worried that I did something wrong. I was able to acknowledge to myself that I was having a hard time that day, and that's ok. I could logically remind myself my actions weren't bad or wrong and had good intentions, and it wasn't about who was right or wrong in that moment. I also later learned other people noticed the same thing as me, and got a similar reaction. These people were much closer to the girl who got upset at me.

Just a reminder to others, we work so hard to do and say the right things. However, I would encourage people to focus on living in a way that aligns with what is important to you. In moments like that where I was acting kindly and considerate and got an unmatched response, it's usually a sign that it is about that other person not you. Give them space and move on with your day. Just remember that you can only control you, and socializing is very complex.


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