Stepped back into dating (divorced 2 yrs ago) and having a hard time differentiating between if someone is genuinely interested or keeping me on “standby.” What’s the frequency of communicating with someone you genuinely want to date? This guy I’ve seen like 8x now.. in person it’s great 👏🏼👏🏼 but not in person… he doesn’t always respond to texts that could have a response. But he’ll come back later on with a different topic or statement unrelated. Rarely has a conversation ended in a “good night.” Just kinda falls off and then maybe like 4pm the next day I’ll get a “whatchu doin?!” Or something basic. Sometimes the conversation expands but not often. Just sporadic conversation and he has yet to ask me about something I told him about … example: I need to have a talk with my friend (how did that talk go…) or Im doing a candle making class with my daughter this weekend (insert follow up question…)
I did talk to him about his lack of responses and how it makes me feel unheard if he just ignores a response (that could be responded to very easily). He responded well and said he’ll try to catch himself doing that.
However, I am wondering if this is just how dating is? It’s not my first experience with this. Am I expecting too much? I match effort so I pretty much stopped hitting him up or asking questions about anything.
For context… I’m 36 and he’s 42.