They'll talk about like their life and show they're happy and go on and it's like I can predict everything they're going to say. "Blahblahblah my sister didn't want to move in with him, aaaaand then I had to back to College to complete my degree, soooo now I'm kinda like between places, and" I don't mean to be narcissistic but I just can't empathize or connect a lot of the time because the conversation feels so dull and lifeless. I mean it's even less interesting than that. I can absolutely get onto like an empathic level and talk to them as a person, enjoy their company and discuss things more relationally which is a relief but it doesn't lead to them being friends with me just what they consider a pleasant talk. They just want to talk at you, not with you, get their fix and … move on.
How do you guys get to know people more deeply? I used to do it years ago but god it's gotten so hard.