I thought I had the most wonderful relationship with my husband, though we did a few counselling sessions as we've been together ten years and have both had an extremely stressful year with work and little holidays. My husband says in counselling that he doesn't think he wants to be married anymore and the sparks gone. My world is shattered, and I cried privately later like someone had died. He moved into the spare room while we got to grips with everything.
I was trying to face life without him and begin planning, when he begins acting like it never happened. He gets signed off work though and goes on depression medication, something I'd secretly hoped he'd do for a long time. He's the most wonderful human but always has depression he generally manages well, but can get numb to things and feel detached.
We even went away for my birthday. He bought me loads of gifts and generally fussed over me a lot. He's very kind and we are still living like we are married except sleeping in seperate rooms and no longer say 'I love you' or kiss (or anything else). We used to tell each other we loved each other multiple times a day, and that's what I miss the most.
He's been getting hot flashes and struggling to sleep with his new medication. I'm trying to tell myself to give him time, and really trying to be here for him. But I also don't want to live like flatmates and be half in/half out the relationship. Not sure whether to put more pressure on him and insist he tries harder, or to step back and not rush things. My heart tells me to push him to make a decision, but my heads telling me to just to give us breathing room. I just feel so worthless, hanging on to see if he still loves me. We are both 32 and have lived together since we were 22.