My wife (45F) enjoys receiving oral sex, but has to be in a very specific mindset to really open up and relax into it and allow it to happen for her. And other conditions must also be met — she can’t have recently used the bathroom, or be too close before/after her period, or be feeling too dirty or sweaty.
Because of this, she is only open to receiving oral a few times per year. So when the stars align and it’s one of those rare nights, it’s a big deal for me. It literally feels like Christmas morning for me (46M). Because I absolutely LOVE eating her pussy. It’s an incredible turn-on for me, and it’s the one time during sex that I feel like I have total control of her pleasure, and can take her anywhere she wants to go.
The problem is, when I get the green light and I try to start on her, she has the tendency to get ticklish. No matter where my lips start on her — her inner thighs or lower belly or vulva or wherever I start. She often gets a ticklish tingle… and then what happens next is that she instantly becomes 10x more ticklish. So I try to reposition and start again, but she gets the ticklish feeling even easier now.
And then it goes totally off the tracks. She closes her legs and tells me like “just come up here with me baby, this isn’t going to work tonight. Let’s do something else.” And I understand and we transition and we still make each other feel good….
But… it absolutely breaks my heart and spirit that I was SO CLOSE to being able to finally eat her pussy, but I messed it up and got turned away. Especially because I know on the non-ticklish events, she loves oral and I love seeing her get lost in her own pleasure.
Has anyone went through this? Are there some tricks or techniques to make it less ticklish at the beginning? We’ve been married for 23 years and I would love to find a way to solve this issue.
For context, she has a full natural bush, and I have medium-length facial hair, so it’s not full direct skin-to-skin contact when we do it.
Thanks to anyone here who can offer advice!