Here’s the original post I made. Even now, it’s a hard read for me.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Marriage/s/0ufbXGl55m

So so many people commented saying that he was cheating – and he was. The full story came out a couple of months after the separation. He had been sleeping with someone from work.

I just found out that he is living with her. A while ago he asked me to forgive him and he asked if he could come home. I said no, he hurt me way too much to be able to come home. So now they live together.

I’m having some sort of feelings about this but I’m actually much happier. My house is so peaceful, I love that I live with just my kids. The freedom is unreal. Without him I can do what I want. There’s no one to tell me to wash clothes, cook dinner, or expect sex. I’m 100% sure he treats his girlfriend better than how he treated me.

I even got myself a boyfriend. It’s early days, but he treats me unbelievably well.

Im so hopeful for the future.

Thanks for reading, and to those who gave me advice and told me he was cheating. You were right. I’m glad he’s gone.


26 comments

  1. definitely better off without him! good for you:) they’ll regret it once it doesn’t work out with their “girlfriend”. im glad you stood up for yourself and didnt take him back.

  4. >A while ago he asked me to forgive him and he asked if he could come home.

    So is your divorce finalized yet? Assuming separation and divorce are not being interchangeably used by you here.

  6. Lmaooo TRUST ME they never treat the next one any better. Maybe in the beginning while they are lovebombing, but trust she’s nothing more than fresh new supply to him. She’ll learn the hard way why you don’t mess around with married men, you’re just something shiny and new to them for a little while and eventually they’ll go back to their old ways

  7. He asked to come home because the joy wore off and he doesn’t like putting in the effort. You dodged a bullet.

  12. > I’m 100% sure he treats his girlfriend better than how he treated me.

    Only at first, I bet he didn’t treat you like he treated you when ya’ll first got together, right?

  13. I think men like this are addicted to falling in love. They like the rush and the excitement but that never lasts. Then they come back and love bomb you back. He would keep doing the same thing over and over. He will do the same thing to her and he will string her along. I dated a guy like this and he is still exactly the same.

  14. Did he seriously want to come home while still sleeping with her or was he hoping for reconsiliation?

  15. My ex did the exact same thing. Asked to come home, I said no, next week he moved in with her. He asked to reconcile 2 more times after that as well!

  16. When a man leaves his wife for his mistress, a vacancy opens. Cheaters never, ever change. Little Missy Homewrecker is about to learn a very hard lesson in life.

  17. He’s only treating her better because she’s only the girlfriend. If he puts a ring on that finger, he’ll probably start treating her the same way he treated you.

    I’m so glad that you’re happier and things are working out better for you.

  22. They start out treating the girlfriend better because this is the “love bombing” phase. Poor thing will think she won a prize – but he’ll slip back into his old behaviors. Lucky for you, she’ll be stuck with him while you are free. You win!

  24. So happy to see this result. They always wanna come back when they realize the 80/20 rule is real!! 😱 keep on living your best life

  26. So he wanted to come home you quite rightly said f off md the mistress gets to keep him – what a prize shes got NOT

    Good for you for all of this im glad youre happier. Sometimes you dont know how miserable they were making you until they leave. Happened with my ex a decade ago. Im remarried but to someone who is far more on my wavelength

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