I (32f) had sex with my bf (38m) yesterday morning.
Usually (99% of the time) he makes me cum first, but this morning we didn’t have much time and I knew that it would take a while, so I opted just to go straight into sex after getting turned on. He still played with my clit during sex in an effort to get me to cum, but I didn’t (not enough time) and he came quite quickly.
He seemed way happier than usual after the sex and kept commenting at how fast he came (in a “wow I must have really enjoyed that to cum so fast” way). I have always suspected he has a kink where he needs to sex to be all about him – but he gets defensive whenever I suggest he has such a kink, saying that he likes getting me off too and it’s a mutual experience etc.
Another example was where my vulva was off limits for a week or two due to a medical
issue and offered him hand jobs instead (he doesn’t like blowjobs) and suddenly he wanted those 3-4xweek whereas he usually only wants sex 1xweek (even when I offer more). The handjob offers all came from me with no prompting – I’m a giver.
In case relevant – he also likes me to show love in the form of acts of service (but also won’t admit it).
What’s going on here? Is there a bit of a worship kink here (him needing worship) or acts of service kink? He always looks after my needs so I’m just keen to figure out what this is and play into it from time to time (without raising it directly since he gets defensive).
TLDR: Trying to figure out if bf has a kink where he needs to be worshipped / sex to be an act of service for him and how best to play into that.