Yesterday i (33F)had a huge argument with my husband (35M)and i am so angry.
For contexts we have been married for 4 years and together for 7 years. We have 2 kids (3 and 1 years old)
We come from different cultures but so far we have been blending pretty well. I am mediterrenian and i am used and enjoy alot having physical contact , very social and commutative person. My husband is more cold and he is not very physical. Somehow i have made peace with it and i tried to overcome this issue (for me was really an issue). I am on maternity leave while working also part time.
Last Friday husband came at home relatively late and tired from long day at work. The first thing that happened was that my younger toddler flew immediately to his dad when he saw him, while the older one started right away telling about his day (they had fun that day) . While i was passing my younger one to his dad (my husband) i was trying to give also a WELCOME HOME kiss to him and planning to continue to prepare milk for my baby.The first thing that my husband did and said was: I am very tired and the first thing you do is giving to me the baby and asking from me a kiss .He was keeping the distance from me and not even trying to give me a kiss.(this is not the first time that he does thought , but everytime it hurts and he knows it)
Ofc i was really angry from this and i said nothing. I left my baby to him and continued what i wanted to do. I tried to calm myself and not react but i couldn’t hide the fact i was very sad and angry.
Now comes the issue : That night he said nth. We watched a movie and when we went to bed he tried to give me good night kiss. Ofc I didn’t give to him and said: i expect you to be still very tired from work so dont bother to give me a kiss. He was angry and slept .
Next day we went to a family trip just 4 of us and on our way back he started to yell at me angry why the fuck when i get pissed i have to be angry for weeks. The trip was boring because i was angry ( In general i am funny and make alot of jokes, but as i was pissed with him i was not just in mood and furthermore i couldn’t fake it ofc). I didn’t do or say anything to upset him, just he could feel my bad energy in that trip.
At that moment i blew. I couldnt keep it anymore and i said to him : how you expect to overcome when you even didnt try to apologize. It happens over and over again and my husband expect me to pretend within hours that nth happened.
I just wanted to ask from your prospective if this behavior of mine was an overreaction or what? Its been 3 days and i still cannot digest it. I am angry and sad that he continues to repeat such situations and he still doesn’t get how important is to me the physical connection. Now i am in the point that i don’t wanna have sex with him anymore