I am 30F and a couple of years ago I started working in an office with 33M. He was in a long-term and long-distance relationship, which ended 4 months ago. We became good friends. Has been flirting with me ever since (and I slowly started to flirt back). During a work trip a month ago, we hooked up. It was very good! He is a nice person to be around and very attractive, although not my ideal type of partner (bad communication skills, some odd views). Back at the office, things kept going strong for a while but have considerably slowed down over the last 10 days (no sex, less attention). The other day I saw that he is back on the apps (from a friend): he has every right to be there, but he has told me repeatedly that he really disliked them, so I feel slightly betrayed lol.
I wanted to have a conversation with him and ask – do we want to keep seeing each other in a relaxed way, or end whatever we have (had?) and remain friends? I would just like some clarity on our current arrangement – and I would rather know his thoughts from his mouth rather than see our relationship fade in an unclear silence… But I am afraid that he is going to feel attacked… I would definitely like to remain friends, so I do not want to make it awkward. Do you recommend having a chat, or just letting things fade? Anybody who has been in a similar situation and remained friends? Thank you!