Please direct me to the right sub if this ain’t it..
I’ll try to make this as brief as I can –
I’m 30 and my parents are in their 50s. My dad is Hispanic and mother white. My dad had an affair on my mom while I was a child…they got past it (although it wrecked my mom and I almost lost her). Without including all the details (because there’s so much I could say about how horrible and some good in their relationship)….my mom recently found out he’s had another affair going on at least since 2023.
On top of that he’s slept with multiple women, quite possibly addicted to porn, and has no remorse. He simply says after 31 years he’s checked out a long time ago and isn’t happy.
My parents bought their home 20+ yrs ago. Both coming from extreme poverty. But my dad has land and money in Mexico. They are in the middle of divorce and he wants her to pay him for the house….
My mom essentially has 8 yrs to live (estimate from doc over kidney and liver failure) and he doesn’t fucking care. They always said they’d leave the house to my kids but it sounds like he now wants to sell it.
I’m worried for my mom. I understand both sides but I’m hearing (and seeing 🤢) so much of my dad that I shouldn’t. He’s never been the greatest dad and was pretty harsh growing up but has always been there for me (confused and hurt by this my entire life)
***NOW the main reason for my post – after 2 weeks of stating the divorce, I’m meeting with my dad tomorrow. I wanna pop his tires, I wanna cuss him out, I want to cry, I want to tell him how much he hurt ME and caused more trust issues with me, how I would never want my daughter to be with a man like him, how I never want my son to be like him, how he shouldn’t take the house from my mom because she was there for me more than he EVER was.
He has $ and property in Mexico – plus ppl who he can stay with. My mom doesn’t have that type of support. I’m fucking scared and mad at both of them. IK it’s not my relationship but I’m going thru so many emotions rn.