When did you know your marriage was over? What was the thing that made you decide it was time to be done trying? I always hear about people that still love each other but no one I know likes their spouse all the time. What separates the “I committed to this person and will work on this through the good and bad” from “I am being crushed from someone who doesn’t value me or allow me to grow”. If you are in a mentally/emotionally abusive relationship where is the line if they refuse to try to change?