I (32M) have noticed that in my love life that I never attract the women that I have crushes on and that I desire however I can usually end up with women I do not put my full time and energy into? Is it perhaps maybe I try too hard with the women I do desire and I end up love bombing them and becoming a yes man because I just want to win them over? With the women who I do end up with whether hooking up or dating I usually do not take the interaction super seriously and I just play it like a game and just say the right things when needed. Should I just not be serious on all my future dates and just have fun with it?