It seems obvious that when you give it's 100% about your partners pleasure and when you receive it is 100% about your own pleasure. Or something like that. But as someone who really gets pleasure from giving during sex this mindset feels kind of difficult to have. If I am giving in a way that only gives my partner pleasure and not me, it is fine, but I also want to give in a way that i feel pleasure from too. But then I feel conflicted for feeling that way, since it should be about only my partners pleasure if i'm pleasuring them? I kind of want to be able to touch them in a way that gives me pleasure as well, but not all the ways someone would want to be touched would do that. And i don't mind giving in a way that I don't get pleasure from, it just feels important to me to be able to ALSO give in a way that give me something as well. I am just wondering if this is a weird or ubhealthy mindset to have around sex when you are giving or receiving.