Ok I need advice; I have been with my boyfriend for 3 plus years. We are head over heels with each other. We have great communication. I do have some past trauma that does keep me from telling him everything (it's important for later), however he usually helps me threw it without judgment and tries to be understanding. He really is great in that aspect. However, things in the bedroom have always been a struggle for me. He has a very big appetite in the bedroom, but he does get very self-conscious if I don't cum. This is the biggest problem. I have full desire for him sexually and enjoy sex, but I have NEVER been able to cum. I have tried everything, touching myself nothing, vibrators…nothing, any other simulations nothing. Again, I do enjoy sex just can't finish. My doctors haven't figured anything that would cause me not too, but the problem, is still there. I tried to talk to him about this in the beginning of our relation, but he taught it was a him problem, and no matter how many different times I tried to explain it, he taught i was lying to spare his feelings. but because I wasn't cumming it was started to affect the relationship, and he stopped wanting to have sex, because he thought it was pointless if I wasn't getting anything out of it. So, I started faking it and have doing it for the past few years. Now he has essentially stopped trying, he has never been great with foreplay, but it was fine at first because I didn't need a whole lot to get me going. but now he doesn't put any effort into it. He has never been in to oral. Which in turn made me really self- conscious, I would only ask for only straight after a shower and he still didn't like to do it, then he finally was truthful and told it was my weight that was the problem. He did tell me as gently as he could be that was the problem. So, with that information, I have stopped asking all together. He on the other hand asks for oral multiple times a day. Which I have no problem doing for him, because I enjoy it. But I starting to feel frustrated that he wants things and expects foreplay, but when I ask, I get two or three quick flicks to my lady region and expects me to ready. To the point he forces himself into me to the point of pain, because it's easier for him to get me wet faster with his hot dog. But if I express to much pain, he just gets annoyed and gives up and wants a hand job or blow job. So, I guess the advice I am asking for is, should I sit down and talk to him and try again to explain the pain and the trauma? Or should I let it go? Will it get better? Is this just a loll in the relationship? I don't want to lose him I do love him, but the pain is getting difficult to deal with mentally and physically. I also don't want to come off as annoying and insecure. Help?