My husband (M38) has a close relationship with his coworker (F31) that makes me a bit uncomfortable. It started about 1 year ago when he brought home a few gifts from her here and there (one of the gifts was for our daughter). He also gave her a gift- a plant that I propagated (i’m a hobby gardener). I honestly wasn’t thrilled about the exchange of gifts. Like, he’s a married man with kids and doesn’t need to be exchanging gifts with a female coworker, imo.
Around this time I found that they were texting each other in the evenings and sharing photos and sending each other songs. When I discovered this I let my husband know I didn’t like it and it was borderline inappropriate. He explained they are just friends and that he doesn’t have a lot of friends at work which is why he gives her so much attention. He turned this on me saying “I guess I just won’t have any girl friends.”
Months go by and I see that she was texting him. Of course i’m curious so I read their messages (i know I shouldn’t snoop). I come to find out that they are having some pretty deep conversations about personal things he doesn’t even share with his closest friends. There was also a text one morning before a doctors appointment where she said she was thinking of him and hopes everything goes well. I confronted him about this and let him know I was surprised that they were that close because I had no idea and I know pretty much everything about my husband because we are very close and like best friends. He let me know that she is in fact his closest friend at work by far. This was also a shock because he talks about his work life with me a lot and share alllllll the office drama- but never talks about her EVER…. yet that’s his closest coworker? idk.
It all seems weird but I don’t know if it’s just me.