So, we're both pretty overweight and I (31F) am probably 15-20lbs heavier than him at the moment. My bf (30M) has wanted me to ride him on top for a while now but I just don't know to manage it. I've tried before and my leg/thigh muscles strain just getting into position. Like, when I put my legs on either side of him to straddle him my muscles are on fire from how wide I have to spread my legs out. I'm also in general worried about putting all my weight on him. Is there something I can do to help (outside of losing weight we are both currently working on it) or do I need to somehow train my muscles?
Unrelated maybe but we're long distance currently so I don't get to actively try new things. He'll be down in October and I want to give him a good time in the bedroom. I'd love to hear about other ways partners who are both obese do things like positions and do you use any type of pillows or wedges to help with support?