My boyfriend (29M) and I (29F) have been together for 3.5 years. He is a great guy. He is kind, caring, and really loves me. He is my first longterm relationship. I was in a lot of "situationships" prior to him that didn't end well and usually only lasted a few months. Thus, I have spent the majority of my 20s alone prior to meeting him. However, as time has gone on I have been questioning whether or not this relationship is right for me for the following reasons:
-We did long distance for about year and half and then moved in together last year. However, he works nights from Wednesday to Sunday and I work days from Monday to Thursday. Thus, we only see each other at night a few nights a week (if he is able to wake up prior to me going to sleep). I have been starting to feel frustrated with us barely getting to do things together and go out like a normal couple. I feel less connected to him now and feel that my feelings have lessened over time. He has told me that come January 2026 he may get a promotion and be moved to days, but he would still be working on Saturdays. This is better than night shift but still kind of a bummer.
-His mother is very overbearing. If he does not text her daily she thinks something is wrong. Since living together she has told my bf that she feels like I am taking her son away from her (even though he is almost 30). She blames me for my BF's (understandably) lack of communication with her.
-He is addicted to zyns and is unable to quit. He began this habit after we began dating.
-He does not do chores unless I ask him to do them. So far I have been the only one to wash the bedding, clean toilets/showers, and wipe down counters. Also, due to him working night shift and long hours he frequently sleep through his alarm for work. When I come home I have to make sure he is up.
Any advice would be appreciated!
TL;DR Afraid of breaking up with a great guy and that the grass isn't greener.