My bf (m43) and i (f39) have been dating 4.5 months. So far it’s the best relationship i’ve had and I’ve never been both more attracted and comfortable with a lover. We are both very affectionate and loving. He told me recently he has fallen for me and said he is in love, and I reciprocated. He tells me often he enjoys the sex and that i’m an “amazing lover” probably because i like to let go and enjoy myself thoroughly. But he also said he lasts longer with me than exes. He said it as a good thing but it makes me feel i excite him less than exes if he takes longer to cum? I know I shouldn’t compare but I feel like he enjoys the exciting sex but isnt visually excited by me. Curious to get some honest thoughts.
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My bf (m43) and i (f39) have been dating 4.5 months. So far it’s the best relationship i’ve had and I’ve never been both more attracted and comfortable with a lover. We are both very affectionate and loving. He told me recently he has fallen for me and said he is in love, and I reciprocated. He tells me often he enjoys the sex and that i’m an “amazing lover” probably because i like to let go and enjoy myself thoroughly. But he also said he lasts longer with me than exes. He said it as a good thing but it makes me feel i excite him less than exes if he takes longer to cum? I know I shouldn’t compare but I feel like he enjoys the exciting sex but isnt visually excited by me. Curious to get some honest thoughts.
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Just enjoy his loving words and stop focusing on random things you see as negative when he’s explicitly said he views them as a positive. For what it’s worth as someone his age, ageing as just as likely a reason as anything else
>Curious to get some honest thoughts.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
If a man really enjoys sex with a partner he will last longer because he feel safe and relaxed. Anxiety kills endurance.
He enjoys the sex with you more. That’s what matters. Don’t get in your head about it.
Ermmmm… what’s the problem here? More for you to enjoy 🤩🤩🤩
He lasts longer with you because he found the one.Comfortable,no pressure finds you exciting.Maybe finds you easy to please,and can cum multiple times.Nothing to do with past lovers enjoy your time together.
Us guys don’t want to last 5 minutes… I’ve had performances that lasted 1 hour tons of positions and times I lasted 5 minutes. Id much prefer lasting then not lasting!
No, this is good. Hopefully it will always be this way.
Just a thought I have noticed. Men actually have a lot more control over their climax than we give them credit for (especially at his age). So just like women can fail to climax if not comfortable/in the right headspace, men will climax a lot faster if they are not comfortable/into it. Kinda like they can yank one out in a 5 minute shower and still have their whole body scrubbed down too. It’s a quick thing to just get the release done. Not to… enjoy… When a man is fully enjoying himself (barring a medical condition or extreme abstinence periods), they can last a while just through mental power.
He’s saying he’s happy he can last longer in order to please you more.