I’m 28M, my wife is 25F. Married 3 years, together for 10. For context, I don't give anyone, second chances.
My BIL borrowed a large sum from me and defaulted. The money itself isn't the problem, it comes and goes but he’s been ghosting me for months while my wife kept promising she’d “handle it” and nothing get's handled.
Last month, at a get-together at her home, we met. Long story short, we got into an argument. My wife tried to smooth things over but finally sided with him. That broke something in me. I left without her.
The next day, I moved out to my parents. Ignored her calls. A week later, I met a divorce attorney.
We met once more in public because she kept contacting me. I told her what was coming. It didn’t go well. She’s safe at home now, but she’ll be served in the coming weeks.
Everyone says I should give her another chance. My take, Money is replaceable, trust isn’t. If I can’t be sure my wife will stand by me, she doesn’t deserve to be my wife.
The issues i need to figure out is
1) Make her understand “us” doesn't exist any more and don’t make this a messy divorce.
2) She’s 7 months pregnant, by the time the baby arrives I have to adjust to a coherent coparenting plan.
So, any advice on how to make this transition smoother, especially with a baby on the way?