Me (26f) and my fiance (27f) have been engaged for about two years now.
We’ve held off on getting married for a few reasons, we moved across the country, needed to save money, etc etc
The big hurdle currently is that my fiancé has had debilitating unexplained pain for about four years now. She has been unable to work since before we met, and has several doctors appts/month usually trying to figure out what the issue is.
I make decent money, it’s enough to save a little and slowly pay off what debts we have from moving. But I’m always trying to scale myself and make more.
Because her issues are not diagnosed, she does not get disability. However she does get Medicaid, which has saved us thousands in medical bills.
We’re trying to see how marriage could affect these things- will she lose coverage because of how much I make/hope to make in the future? The coverage she would need would be almost $1000/month- something I definitely can’t afford now.
If we decide to not get legally married for this reason, our other concern is if her medical issues get worse, I am not legally her family and we are afraid of what would happen if the absolute worse happens. (Death, coma, surgeries, etc)