Long story short, my husband has layers and layers of security on his phone and is very protective of it and I’m bothered by it. I have 100% been through his phone (and found things, nothing severe, but conversations that shouldn’t be had. I think the kids are calling this “microcheating”). We have mostly worked through that part of our marriage but sometimes I still have the itch to snoop. I’m working on this in individual therapy. Him giving me his password was supposed to be us rebuilding trust but I don’t really have access because he has stolen device mode on and it renders most of his phone useless without his face to open Face ID. On the contrary, my devices are an open book. Laptop, phone, iPad, smartwatch. He has the passwords and can access them if he wants. He has in the past and I don’t care if he does. I feel like if I can share a home, finances, and create other humans with a person, a phone is an odd place to draw a line. Is this just something we are incompatible in? How are other married people navigating this?