TL;DR: my long distance boyfriend is terrified of scheduling a FaceTime to meet my parents. They want to do it before I move out in 4 days.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend long distance for over nine months (I have been of age the whole time). We’ve called and FaceTimed multiple times so I know he’s not some fake trying to catfish me. He has severe anxiety and has had it since he was little, he’s also had some bad experiences in past relationships. He doesn’t like that he’s older than me and he’s really scared that my parents will hate him for it even though they already know and they’re pretty much fine with it. The thing is I’m moving out in 4 days and my mom really wants to have a FaceTime with him before I leave, but every time I bring it up he completely freaks out. He gets so scared that it will go wrong and spirals into self doubt. I can comfort him most of the time but then he leaves me on read (he never does that) or changes the subject before we actually schedule a time to call. If he wasn’t serious about us then I don’t think he would still be talking to me for over nine months. Like I said we’ve FaceTimed so I feel like the only reason he wouldn’t want to call is truly anxiety. But I don’t think my parents will believe that and while I’m not super close to them I still care about what they think of me and they don’t really like that I started dating someone online.
I’m just about to freak out about this and I’m not sure what to do.
How do I talk to him and schedule this call without pushing his anxiety over the edge?
What do I tell my parents if we never schedule a call before I move out?
Edit: the title is a typo, he’s 23