My husband 60M and I 50F have been together for 15 years. He is the love of my life. However, I found out last week he gave a new friend (2 months) he met a substantial amount of money to get his car fixed. Which is fine we have separate accounts but what hurts me is he said im not going to tell my wife and didn’t want anyone that know to tell me. I was just wanting to ask for insight of how to respond? This really hurt my trust. I plan on talking to him about it in the next few days. I think he may have thought I would say I didn’t think this was a good idea so he just decided to hide it.
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It may sound like a big deal, but I don’t think it really is. You say that you have separate accounts, why is that? Is it so that you keep your finances totally separate? He might be worried, after he made the loan, that he might not get paid back in which case he would not want to appear foolish in your eyes for making the loan in the first place and hence the secrecy. Talk to him if it is worrying you but don’t argue with him about it, just tell him that you would’ve liked to know.
Was there past experience that you ate him alive over something he did ?
Has his drinking habits changed around the same time as the loan was made? Maybe he’s having second thoughts and is stressing about the loan that I think if I remember rightly you said it was a substantial amount of money.