We have been married for 3 years, both 31
And we have a 1 year old son now
Lately I have been feeling like my husband doesn’t feel like wanting to touch me anymore.
First I have to pin down, he a very good husband, he treats me well, provides and helps with baby with what he can, and i have never felt disrespected or verbally hurt.
But recently I feel like there’s no intimacy whatsoever, it feels like we’re siblings! And that happened so suddenly i was not prepared for and it is not the same on my side
I am literally obsessed with him, chasing him around with touches and bites, i look at him and admire him, drop comments and flirts
I sit close to him when we’re watching tv
But it feels like it’s never from his side, i don’t feel loved or seen by him
And if i don’t approach him then we’d just sit like strangers
Not to mention sex, he probably initiated sex only twice the past year
This is breaking my heart, we’re only married for 3 years, what will happen when it’s over 10
I confronted him and told him how i feel, he said that he didn’t feel like something is wrong, he still feels grateful and appreciated what I do, but he did say thay he’s gotten used to me, and that my expectations were unrealistic, that marriage is not all love and adoration.
And it broke my heart, because I don’t feel the same,
I don’t know how to manage those feelings, i tried to cool down, appreciate the life i have and move forward but those feelings still pop in my head through out the day
Every time i want to cuddle or be affectionate this cross my mind of how unreciprocated those actions are.
Now I don’t know what to do
Is it something that i should just accept as part of marriage and live the rest of my life like this
Then where should i put those thoughts and feelings,
Is it me? Do i have unrealistic expectations?
Should i get therapy?
I don’t know
I just want to love and be loved back