For context me and my gf have been together for three years for the first couple of months of me being with her they were perfect we were a happy couple in the honeymoon stage one can say but it all went sideways when one day she went though my instagram and saw likes and messages of girls I’ve used to talk too before we dated. We had a big fight because I thought that stuff didn’t matter because it was before her but she made it the biggest deal. For months we struggled like this we would have arguments all the time and she would treat me like shit because of that. Fast forward today and we’re still like this I can’t even have a girl to pop up on my fyp without her getting mad she tells me that I’m looking at girls we can’t even be in public for gods sake without her accusing me of looking at girls which I’m not. She blames her insecurities on me because that I liked those pictures and that I should have told her that I was liking girls pictures but why should I it’s my past I don’t judge her on her past. The relationship is miserable now I love her but I’m drained and I don’t know what to do she’s very insecure about her body and looks and I can’t do anything about it I compliment her and she tells me that I never do. She says I lack affection but it’s hard to show someone affection to someone who acts rude and disrespectful to me because they are insecure .
TL;DR: My gfs insecurities of her body image have led her to be disrespectful and spiteful towards me and it’s ruining our relationship