Burner account because I don’t want anyone to think I’m choosing sides.
We have been very close friends with a couple for well over ten years. They were always very transactional in their relationship and didn’t have a ton in common, but it seemed to be working for them. In the last few years they have grown apart, she does not feel valued and he just plain doesn’t understand why that matters. I know she has tried to express herself and her needs, admittedly I’m closer with her than with him so I have not heard “his side” but the things she has asked him to do are so simple and he just does not want to do them. She has had enough and understands that he does not intend to change so she asked him for a divorce. She moved out and told me she feels better in her own space than she has felt in a long time.
Here is where I need advice. He is planning a surprise weekend getaway to try to reconnect. After all the simple things he was asked to do and didn‘t, this seems primed to backfire. He told us about it in confidence so obviously I don’t want to tell her, but does that mean I am letting him walk into his own trap?