My wife and I have been together for 15 years. We have two kids and we still have a good sex life. We have sex once or twice a week, which I am grateful for.
For the past 5 or 6 years I have had a very specific fantasy. I want to watch her with another couple. I do not necessarily need to be involved. What excites me is the idea of just watching her enjoy herself.
I think it has grown stronger because of porn. We sometimes watch porn together and I have even told her that the only way I can really get off is if it is a threesome scene with a woman who looks like her. That is the closest I have come to admitting the real fantasy. In truth I think about it almost every day.
My concern is how to bring this up without making her feel pressured, insecure, or like what we already have is not enough. That is not the case. I love our sex life. This fantasy has just stuck with me for years.
Has anyone else had a long-term fantasy that they eventually shared with their partner? How did you start that conversation in a way that felt safe? And how did you decide whether it was something worth pursuing in real life or something better left as fantasy?