We’ve been together for a little over a year and a half. The last time we had sex was in May, and now it’s August. I’ve brought this up to him multiple times, and when I ask why we haven’t been intimate, his answer is usually that he hasn’t been saving money or that there hasn’t been a “good time.” But whenever there is a chance, he usually chooses to hang out with his friends or drive out of town to see his cousins.
For context: he lives in a dorm and works full-time, I live with my parents and I’m a full-time student working as well. The only real way for us to be intimate is at a hotel, which we can both afford. I’ve booked one before, but he got upset because he feels like he should be the one to do that, except he just doesn’t. Also, it’s not possible for us to get our own place right now because of his current job.
He’s an amazing boyfriend in every other way. He brings me lunch at work and eats with me, he always wants to fall asleep on the phone together, he’s super affectionate with hugs and kisses. But I’m really missing the physical intimacy. Sometimes he even gets me worked up, but then nothing happens, and it’s becoming frustrating and hurtful.
I don’t want to pressure him, but I’ve already brought this up a few times and I keep getting the same answers. I feel stuck between appreciating everything else he does for me and feeling unsatisfied in this area of our relationship.
How do I navigate this? Do I just wait it out, or should I bring it up more seriously? I’m worried if this continues, it’ll build resentment.
TL;DR: Been with my boyfriend (22M) for 1.5 years, last time we had sex was in May. He avoids opportunities, says it’s “not the right time,” and gets upset if I book a hotel even though he doesn’t. He’s amazing otherwise, but I’m missing intimacy and worried it’ll create resentment.