Hi guys, this is my first ever post on reddit so forgive me if there are any mistakes. My bf (24M) and I (24F) have been together for just over 7 months, it's also my first relationship and he’s honestly amazing. Early on I told him that I wasn't ready to have sex yet because I can only do something like that with someone I'm committed to and who's committed to me. (A bit of extra context: I've never had sex before and we'd only been dating for a little under a month at the time, so the relationship status wasn't confirmed yet), and he was super respectful!
Now I do feel ready, but I’d really like our first time to happen when I’m staying with him for a few days (we usually only see each other once a week). The idea of leaving the next day makes it feel too much like a one-night stand to me, temporary, not special, a throw away and overall something that doesn’t have any meaning. Because it’s such a vulnerable step for me, I know I’ll probably be mentally, physically and emotionally affected by it afterwards. I feel like I’d need some extra quality time on top of the initial aftercare and pillow talk to help emotionally regulate me.
Has anyone had a similar experience? Is this a totally normal thing? Is there a better way to describe this feeling? Just looking for some guidance so if I bring it up to my boyfriend I can explain it in a way that makes sense haha
TL;DR I’m ready to have sex with my bf, but I want it to happen when I can stay with him for a few days. Leaving right after would feel rushed, and I’d need more time together to feel okay.