Using a throwaway for privacy. My boyfriend and I have recently been talking about taking things further, and it’s going to be my first time. The problem is my lack of confidence with my larger labia and the amount of liquid that comes out when I squirt. Most of the time it is a lot, like it really pours out, which makes me feel messy and self-conscious.
I feel uncomfortable with how my vagina looks, about 1 1/2 to 2 inches when pulled straight, and squirting has become discouraging because the clean up no longer feels worth the orgasm. I am not sure how to bring this up with him so we can prepare and he is not surprised if it is not something he enjoys.
I would love any advice on building confidence, managing squirting, or opinions on talking openly with him about this