I've been noticing over the years that when in public settings, fewer people interact with those around them. It's like we're all stuck in our own little worlds. I try to be friendly to men when I'm out shopping (smile, make eye contact) but they just look through me. Sure, some may not be single… it's so hard to tell these days… or they aren't looking or I'm too ugly to bother being looked at. But it just seems that we're all resigned to meeting people through our phones and not any other way. Is it just me experiencing this?
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you’re so right.. no one wants to talk to people IRL anymore unfortunately. and dating apps are awful so it seems people just don’t want to be happy anymore.
They are designed to keep you in the app as much as possible and not to match you to people.
I think dating apps have made people a bit passive, like they’d rather swipe later than take a chance in person. It’s not really about looks either, most people are just caught up in their own heads, stressed, or glued to their phones. Honestly, organic connections still happen, but they feel rarer now because approaching someone face to face takes more courage than tapping a screen.
You can thank the rise of modern feminism mixed with social media for telling men *”Women don’t want you to approach them”*, so they stopped.
Dating Apps are consensual and you generally know what the other person/people on the app want.
yea
those online friendships are hella annoying, even more if they are like 50km away from you
Using an app generally guarantees that the communication is consensual on both sides and both parties are seeking roughly the same thing.
Trying to meet someone in real life? “Am I bothering them? Will this make them uncomfortable? Are they here for something specific I’m delaying them from? Just because they’re here doesn’t mean they want to talk to me specifically. They’re out of my league, they won’t say yes so there’s no point in trying.”
Meeting someone on an app cuts out most of the unknown.
Less likely to risk being rejected in person; yes! My dating app statistics tell me I only have a 1 in 50 to a 1 in 75 chance of a woman i am attracted to finding me attractive back 🫡 . (Photofeeler tells me that number might be closer to 1 in 20 or so, but hard to extrapolate between multiple platforms)
I’m okay to grind on a dating app, I get dates with really pretty women who I enjoy talking to! Like most men, I don’t have the support system to handle that quantity of in person rejections. You really need to have a strong supportive group of people around you to handle that, which most guys don’t, and if you have the group; they’ll probably lead you to your future partner anyways 😂
It’s a two way street. Are you approaching men or are you smiling and hoping you got the point across? You have to use your big girl words to initiate an indication you’re interested. It’s not like if you said, “Hey, you’re cute, is there any chance you’re single?” A man would say “I’m busy looking at Tinder, don’t bother me.”
Men no longer feel entitled to my time and attention when I’m trying to get groceries and I love that. I’m happily taken now but I would ask men “any chance you’re single?” When I was on the market and men liked it, so l don’t think the apps are your issue.
Dating apps are just an extension of today’s reality … everybody is on their phones for EVERYTHING, not just dating. They’re on their phones to do literally everything
On the contrary. I’ve had such a bad experience with the apps that it pushed me to learn how to meet people in real life!
You’re definitely not imagining it. Dating apps have trained people to think that’s the “safe” space for romantic interaction, so approaching someone in public feels riskier now.
Plus everyone’s more aware of not wanting to bother people who are just trying to live their lives. The line between being friendly and creepy has gotten blurrier, so people err on the side of caution.
Phones don’t help either – we’re all less present and approachable when we’re constantly looking at screens.
I think your giving way to much power to dating apps, there is a whole bunch of things at play here (all of which are not good and the longer it goes on the harder it is to fix), however it is possible).
– Parents grew up with the new internet, so its hard to restrict access when 99% of school all use it
– All agencies (schools, governments, police) all use the internet, so again hard to not go near it
– Allowed people to find things and get them in under 24 hours, i remember not seeing the news until Sunday when the larger Sunday paper came out, if its not on your phone in 2 mins now, its time to boycott the whole social media platform.
– Enabled “i am always right and i always win even when i dont” society, there are no experts anymore, how i fixed the car (even when it was wrong) i will make sure the expert who says i am wrong is banned from the forum, mostly as the forum administrator is under 25, so has no idea how to “manage” people, as thats a skill you development not get given just as you create a social forum
– Its resulted in many laws and living methods making people not want to interact, and now they have AI and claim thats BETTER than being human, you see the trend here? its all about stamping out humans and subject them to control… so really to avoid this you need to treat people as stupid as they look.
Its reached a tipping point where alot of people no longer use dating apps, they are full of AI and real people who want to use someone are being labeled as AI so they are loosing the will to want to use them. Humans have developed so many ways to not interact it worked.. people have started to go out and talk to others, i see the capase of online anything has started kinda faster than i thought it would.
Is there a location this doenst happen, and there is.. CRUISES, where you talk with people, find others with the same view about not wanting to be online, people watching the sea, people looking forward to the show tomorrow and talking with you about it over dinner… those people dont sit on social media all day, mostly as it costs money. You all talk at dinner about how good the island was you just visited that day… so this is all possible.