I (31f) and my husband (27m) have been married for 7 years. We’ve always had a problem with communication but I assumed (wrongly) that if our problems got too bad that’s we’d eventually bring it up. I understand that haven’t been the best wife. I have intimacy problems that I’m only now going to therapy for. I also haven’t been showing love to my husband the way he wants. I’ve been loving him my way but I guess that wasn’t enough. We’ve been separated for a year now because he was going to transition to the Army and I would start college. Two birds one stone kind of thing. So we’ve been separated for too long and we haven’t had much time together. We got 2 weeks every 3 months pretty much. We were separated during Mothers and Father’s Day and while my husband got his parents to bring me flowers I didn’t realize that I could get flowers delivered to him on base. I also went through most of the day before finally sending him a Father’s Day text. I know I should have been a better wife but if he had brought up how he was feeling I would have done anything to make him feel loved and appreciated. I’ve tried getting him to do explain why he doesn’t want to do counseling and why he immediately jumped to divorce rather than talking to me about how I’ve been making him feel but he just says he wants to be alone and that he doesn’t want to do counseling cause he just doesn’t want to. When he brought up divorce it was through a text that he sent when he was on his way back to the base he was training at. There’s obviously more but I think these are the most major issues. He won’t talk to me and will barely look at my messages. I just don’t know what to do to get him to come back to me. I know I have a lot to work on but I just want the opportunity to try before he completely gives up. We also have 2 kids together. I’m sorry if this was all over the place.