My husband and I have been exploring kinks and fantasy in our sex life. I agreed and said yes to him sleeping with another woman (20) . I had boundaries though ( for example, I didn’t want him to cum in them , even with a condom ) . He asked me again if he could and said he won’t be attach if he did, I finally agreed and said yes. I bended all my boundaries regarding the situation because I trusted his words . Him going into this , the only rule was, use a condom and share your experience with me after. Btw, for context, this was an escort he slept with.
So he finally did it and came home and basically lied to me. He fabricated his story about how much he hated it blah blah. I asked him if he cum inside of her he said no.
Turned out it was all a lie, he actually enjoyed it and came inside of her and felt intimate with her.
I’m so hurt , not because he had sex with her but because after we’ve both agreed about this he still came home and lied to me..
Idk how we can move past this… we are going to start marriage counselling but idk if I will ever feel safe again.
Anyone experience something similar and how did you heal?