I need advice. I feel like my husband is getting more and more immature everyday. We have been together since Mar 2021 and were married Oct 2023. For a while it’s been great. But lately I just feel like it’s gone downhill. I try to get him to help around the house, and he just half asses it, or doesn’t even do it. He has used my credit cards and maxed them out on truck repairs. I haven’t received any gift for Christmas or my birthday (and have not been celebrated at all by his family, they celebrate everyone else) . His birthday is coming up and I have planned a birthday party for him, and am making a homemade cake, plus two more dinners with 2 more cakes at our house so all his friends can come celebrate. And was told that wasn’t enough and required a gift.
And now wants to sweep any issues under the rug and not talk about anything that requires a conversation. His dad is a verbally and emotionally abusive alcoholic and his mom is a narcissistic emotionally immature and abusive witch. They treat him like absolute crap, and I’m the one left picking up pieces of him. Their whole dynamic is to never have a conversation about any of it and live like it’s hunky dory. I’m just tired of always being the one to see the struggles, deal with constant drama and immaturity, and always come and clean up the mess left behind.
I’ve tried to tell him to go to therapy, couples and to talk about his sister and parents. He refuses to try and claims he forgets. That’s all I hear is “I forgot” about everything. If anyone has any advice. Please help.