I don’t even know how to begin. My mom died 5 months ago, and since then my husband has been cruel and emotionally absent. He started to get that way right after marriage when I wouldn’t move on family land.
• He told me his love is conditional.
• He left me emotionally and physically, says he’s “trying,” but hasn’t done anything concrete.
• He refuses to financially support me or spend time with me.
• He doesn’t want to legally separate or divorce.
• I recently found out he secretly finished and moved into an unpermitted home behind my back.
• He has screamed at me about sex and has tried to coerce me in my sleep.
I feel stuck and unsafe. He won’t work on the marriage, won’t legally separate, but is living his own life without me.
How do I protect myself legally when he refuses to file for separation or divorce but has already left the marriage emotionally and physically?
Has anyone dealt with a partner trying to coerce sex during grief or in their sleep — how did you handle that?
What steps should I take regarding the unpermitted home he secretly built and moved into behind my back?
Is there a way to move forward (emotionally and practically) when someone insists they don’t want to separate but won’t show up as a partner?
How do I begin to rebuild my sense of stability after losing my mother and being left in this way?
Anything will help. Just lost in grief and depression right now. Still going to the gym and trying to focus on self care.