I (28M) and my girlfriend (26F) have been together for a bit over four years now. We are very much in love have a great relationship but sex is recently becoming more of a frustrating situation on my end. I have a very high sex drive where I’m horny and masturbate probably once a day and hers is on the lower end of the spectrum I would say. We have sex maybe once every month or once every month and a half. And that’s totally fine, I understand we’re busy adults, we have work and responsibilities that take over our lives every week. But even then I consider myself as someone who is pretty easy to please. I have a foot fetish especially for feet in heels, sandals, boots. I also have a fetish for leather, leather clothing and leather boots. She on the other hand is very vanilla when it comes to sex and fantasies. Likes mostly missionary and doggie, lights off. I have no problem in having vanilla sex with her, I love her very much and I still enjoy it and we both cum. But I’m not satisfied nor am I happy in our sex life if I don’t indulge in my kinks. Like I mentioned before in the post, I personally think having this fetish is not all that taxing (effort wise) for the other partner. I’m not asking her her to have sex or indulge in my kinks daily, we’re busy with life and I get it. But maybe at least once a week it would make me really happy have her put some heels on for sex, or send me a picture of her feet in a cute pair of heels, maybe even put on leather pants and heels take pictures and jerk me off, this would make me so happy and satisfied in sex. This doesn’t mean I don’t like having vanilla sex with her, I also want to have vanilla sex with her because that’s what she likes. We’ve had a few discussions about this and our sex life in general, she gets really uncomfortable talking about sex, so it’s hard to communicate with her about anything sex related. But she says that I only like her feet and her dressed in leather not in her birthday suit ( plain naked ), which is not true because out of the 4 years we’ve been together I can count with my fingers the amount of times she’s indulged in my fetishes. And whenever she does do it she does it reluctantly and kinda with an attitude, which doesn’t feel great and leaves you feeling kinda icky. I feel like when you’re in a sexual relationship, at least myself, I get turned on seeing my partner turned on. So seeing her do something with displeasure feels kinda shitty. I’ve tried to have this conversation with her a few times now over the last 4 years, asked her if she has fantasies or kinks that she wants to try. Like I said I’m pretty open with that stuff as long as my partner is getting pleasure and we’re sharing a sexual experience. She keeps saying nothing that she likes vanilla sex. And that’s ok, I’ve accepted it at this point as vanilla sex being her thing. I also love to take her shopping for heels and even leather clothes if she’s open to it, but she gets mad at me even for even suggesting the idea. She also gets mad at me for even showing her a cute pair of shoes that I want to buy her online. So I’m just frustrated and don’t know what to do because I’m still not getting to indulge in my fetish and kinks. I’m looking for advice or any personal experiences in similar situations. Maybe girls with boyfriends with similar fetishes. Girlfriends with boyfriends with heels and foot fetish/ leather fetish. I don’t know am I being unreasonable ?