TL; DR: basically the title
I get all the “none of your business narrative” when it comes to partner’s sexual past and I agree with it, but what I also find very common is that sometimes even good relationships ruin completely, when partners “lie” about their past. In different forums guys just completely self-sabotage themselves when they acknowledge much later in life that partner’s past was much wilder than they thought. And you know, I believe not the fact itself is devastating, but losing trust.
So I find this topic very interesting: what is your magic formula here: how (and if) past experiences should be discussed/told completely to understand whether values align or “not know-not care” is better?
Because if we conclude that “you will never know” is the 99% of the cases, how to build trust and save yourself from possible future sorrow, without being nosy that goes as total turn-off.
So how do you guys cope with it? Again, more related to genuine communication than pure digging.
Thank you guys!