So I've had some pretty amazing dates with this guy and he asked me to be exclusive with him pretty quickly so I thought he felt romantic feelings for me and we've has sex and shared deep conversations and I really thought he liked me. He bought flowers to the first date, organised dates etc.
Anyway, I was having a 30th meal and invited him (awkwardly but it was also out of politeness; we've met family etc so had already crossed that hurdle) and he didn't confirm or deny but nearer the time he said he was working double shifts that week.
Anyway, he ended up not working double shifts and he was home playing Xbox whilst I was at the meal. He did give me a 5 minute call when he finished work between his next job and I appreciated that as he was too busy to text me a proper happy birthday. He said he had sent me something but I had no parcels.
Anyway, we are so new I didnt pressure the situation although it made me sad he didn't feel he could just decline the invite as I don't know that he had work at all, I wonder now if it was always a ruse. He ended up taking Monday off to hangout with his bestfriend which is lovely but it did make me feel a little put in my place.
This morning a parcel was on the table so must have been hidden in the shed so I felt so rude but when opening the card I saw he had called me 'Fag Ash Lil' which is an unfortunate nickname he's attached to me after a comment I made about not wanting to smell if smoke and not wanting to be thought of as Fag Ash Lil (and I would be quitting smoking).
It just made me cry because I don't think he feels romantically toward me anymore and it feels like he's losing interest and on one hand I appreciated the card but on the other it made me feel bad to read that as my name and its my 30th so its a milestone and now the first card he gave me won't even be one I treasure.
He signed it love Lorax (I call him my sexy little lorax), which I wanted to be happy about but the awful nickname and having not had much quality interaction just made me feel dreadfully embarrassed like it felt so insincere and I didnt want anything soppy but I just feel like this occasion made me realise we arent right for each other and I'd planned a hut for us to stay at together this weekend but I'm so nervous I'm investing in someone who just sees me potentially as fun or a friends with benefit?
Contrary to this. Maybe this was just a bad joke that didn't land? I've messaged and asked not to be called FAL going forward and I hope he honors that but if anyone can tell me of goofball stories like this that lead to a relationship I'd appreciate that x