So I’m a switch who hasn’t been dominated enough. I’m male, so traditionally the women I’m with expect me to man handle them, and when I ask to switch, I get the half assed not fully taking authority kinda experience. But my new girlfriend is the exception to this rule, also being a switch. So I’m finally getting to explore my kinkier side beyond just holder each other down and aggressively pounding. So first question I gotta ask is, what are some ways she and I can explore/discover our kinky and dominant sides?
The other is I recently saw a photo of a boudoir shoot where the women in the photo was weathering a strapy corset like bra, g string, heels, and a leather cat(?) masquerade mask. Something about that really did something for me, but the thing I can’t figure out is the mask. When I search bdsm and kinky masks, I get these things that look like gas mask, or puppy play stuff. It was just really hot get up that I’d love my gf to try (if she’s into it, but knowing her she would). But the mask thing is hard to find. What is it called? What should I search for that doesn’t take me to the extreme side of fetish?
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So I’m a switch who hasn’t been dominated enough. I’m male, so traditionally the women I’m with expect me to man handle them, and when I ask to switch, I get the half assed not fully taking authority kinda experience. But my new girlfriend is the exception to this rule, also being a switch. So I’m finally getting to explore my kinkier side beyond just holder each other down and aggressively pounding. So first question I gotta ask is, what are some ways she and I can explore/discover our kinky and dominant sides?
The other is I recently saw a photo of a boudoir shoot where the women in the photo was weathering a strapy corset like bra, g string, heels, and a leather cat(?) masquerade mask. Something about that really did something for me, but the thing I can’t figure out is the mask. When I search bdsm and kinky masks, I get these things that look like gas mask, or puppy play stuff. It was just really hot get up that I’d love my gf to try (if she’s into it, but knowing her she would). But the mask thing is hard to find. What is it called? What should I search for that doesn’t take me to the extreme side of fetish?
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Was it like, part of the face instead of full hood? If so I think “masquerade mask” is exactly what you need to make sure you don’t get more intense stuff, or maybe “eye mask”?
Something like this?
[https://bdsm-gear.shop/product/cat-leather-bdsm-mask/](https://bdsm-gear.shop/product/cat-leather-bdsm-mask/)
You cant decide what her or your specific kinks will be in switching. What you can do is give alot of examples of things you thought about and toughts that turns you on. Then compare those examples with eachother and see if you find something you would like to try incommon. Maybe explain why certain details has the arousal effect, where it stems from. Try to describe the tought process. limits, what would be less enjoyable etc. In the end its about learning about eachother, not deciding what taste they should like. More find food you both like to give you an analogy.
You are probably just looking for ‘leather (masquerade) cat mask’
If you ask google a lot for kink stuff maybe searching in an incognito window may help.
Etsy should also have you covered for both high end and affordable, but still not too tacky stuff.