I’m a 32-year-old guy, and I go to the gym 4–5 times a week. I’ve noticed that whenever I ejaculate, the next day I feel weaker and can’t lift as much. Because of this, I usually try not to cum during sex.
It’s not that I don’t enjoy sex — I actually do. I often use a delay spray, let my girlfriend finish, and I genuinely enjoy the experience. I usually only cum 1–2 times a week to maintain my energy for workouts.
My girlfriend sometimes wants me to finish inside her, but I usually avoid it because of the impact it has on my gym performance. We’re not fighting over it, but it’s something I think about.
So my question is: Am I doing something wrong here? Is it selfish to prioritize my gym performance over finishing during sex, even if I still fully enjoy being intimate?