I'm not talking about ghosting after a few dates. I'm talking about ghosting after several months of talking and dates.
The last person I was with I met towards the end of last year via a dating app, we saw one another regularly, spoke and texted frequently. All signs looked like they were headed towards something, especially with him telling me things like I was his dream girl and all the nice things someone says to you while dating.
Then cut to this year around May, the texts become slow to respond and all of a sudden on a random Sunday just goes vanish. Now we're both grown in our 30s, shouldn't you have the decency to say you no longer want to keep seeing me?
I'm not one to beg anyone for anything. I will never beg someone to be somewhere where I sense I'm no longer wanted, but I am fed up with the silence after months. Why would someone do this? Why do people do this?
Every man I've met and dated from a dating app has done this to me after several months of consistency. It's begun to wear on my confidence and make me feel like I am not enough or worthy of finding my person, which is silly. I know that's not true but this keeps happening again and again. I'm tired. I'm broken. My heart can not take it anymore.
How can someone do this after months and continue on as if nothing happened? As if I never mattered? It hurts to realize you never mattered to someone you cared for. That it was all a lie. How can people do this? Does the guilt ever get to them? Will karma ever get back to them for doing this again and again? Do people not feel remorse?
It's honestly really taken a toll on me and I know I did nothing wrong but be my kind self but this behavior after repeated times can weigh you down. I feel really down and like perhaps I'll never find my person, which I know is silly to say and think but lately it's just how I've been feeling.